Somehow I feel like I am failing as a parent. what’s up with that?
He called a boy a name at school. Then threw a tantrum. He tore pages out of another child’s notebook. Then threw a tantrum. He threw pencils, slamming his chair, and stomping. Apparently even after the teacher called me, he continued so he got sent to the office. They have given him recess detention tomorrow.
*SIGH*
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withoutanet said:
wow, i wonder what happened to make him feel so upset? goodness gracious. not that he’s automatically excused, but this is an odd time, in general, for all of you. hopefully, everything will be okay. do they have some sort of contructive learning exercise (incident oriented)taking place during this detention?
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Lady Ozma said:
I think it is just the stress of everything
But sheesh… that’s out of control. *SIGH* He’s grounded. He says “This is boring” Good, maybe you will learn to be good.
kids…
I have no clue what happens in detention. I didn’t even know they did detention in elementary school. Guess I’ll find out. If nothing else, hope he at least does lines. But hopefully they will have some constructive learning excercises. (He could use lines though to improve his handwriting. He’s attrocious at that)
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withoutanet said:
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what made me ask, was that quite a few good kids fly off the handle when provoked. it sounds like he overreacted to something. i can’t believe he said ‘ this is boring’ i am so laughing. but i wouldn’t be (or maybe i still would) if i had kiddos.
speaking of handwriting, mine is darn near illegible. it has been so long since i have *had* to take my time to write anything that i don’t even *try* to form letters clearly. mostly, i make lists and sign checks/card slips. i have begun making clearer lists in order to shape up, lol
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Lady Ozma said:
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Actually it is kind of funny. Even funnier..did Iblog it? The other night the kids are eating… you want to hear fly off the handle…
Caramon drank Joram’s chocolate milk for no reason we could figure out… well i twas like the last straw for Joram. He’s like “Here’s five and almost a half years of big brotherly abuse from you” Next thing I know he’s beating the snot out of Caramon. We knew it would happen someday… hehe Boy it was kind of funny…
I don’t know what the deal was. He couldn’t give me a reason like So and so did something… so I dunno.
My handwriting used to be nice but I do virtually everything typed now so my writing…bites. About the only thing I write any more is checks.
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withoutanet said:
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you did post about it. i bet even that was cute. poor caramon, even though he may have had it coming. lol
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withoutanet said:
and you are *so* not a bad parent. ahhh. *sigh* i’ve got some laundry to fold. up, behind, up … at least that’s the last of chore-type stuff for the day.
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Lady Ozma said:
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hehe… poor kid but omg… he did. When Joram was born he was two and he’d walk by and just go WHAP on Joram’s head. It is pretty typcial but as a mum I was like EEEEK. Well he’s so bossy and pushy all the time. We just knew one day Joram would go “ENOUGH” and take Caramon down. Joram is a bit bulkier…hehe Just really did not know it would be over milk and be so fricking FUNNY
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Lady Ozma said:
Thanks ((HUGS))
I know it is just stress from crazy life but still… I just don’t know what to do.
HEHE… I guess telling you I am bored all day would make you unhappy. The good thing about having nothing in the house is it just doesn’t get messy! *GRINS* Though I have a pile of kid clothes on my love seat. I might go ahead and fold/put away just because I’m BORED… usually kids do it. HEHE
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withoutanet said:
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roflll, i can see it in my minds eye. sibling fights are almost the most fun. it almost always ends well
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Lady Ozma said:
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hehe… It was so funny I’m tryng to explain to joram… standing up for yourself..good beating someone up… bad. HEHE
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withoutanet said:
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rofl, i bet. talk about a dilemma. poor baby. they are adorable, in every sense of the word
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withoutanet said:
Re: Thanks ((HUGS))
you are soo welcome *hugs*
this is just plain-old going to be a crazy period, here for a while. hope things still go well
‘nighters
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Lady Ozma said:
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*SIGH* Definately crazy…
But it will work out 🙂
Night
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withoutanet said:
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things will most assuredly turn out well. but will you have hair at the end of it all? im jk. it just sounded too funny not to say.
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Lady Ozma said:
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HEHE… that was too funny!
I highly recommend pampering said hair now. Sounds like it needs it. Good shower massagy shampooey thing. Hot oil treatment or some such!! hehe
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withoutanet said:
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niiiiice, pamperage!!! enjoy!
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Lady Ozma said:
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you deserve that pamperage… 🙂 pamper yourself!!
I deserve that pamperage.. wonder when I could sneak away for it? HEHE
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withoutanet said:
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it was funny cause i had just had a mineral bath =) totally good spa stuff i got for christmas. whooo hooo. you definitely deserve an hour to yourself. late at night?
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Lady Ozma said:
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yeah… but what I really want is a scalp massage or something.. haha 🙂 hard to give yourself a decent one.. *SIGH*
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withoutanet said:
heh heh
your challenge this week is to make an appointment for a hair cut. i’m just kidding. but hey. i don’t totally dig letting them ‘style’ my hair, but a wash and cut is like $12-$15 here. and it feels pretty good. ~.~
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Lady Ozma said:
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eh… don’t want to… hard to get in while kids are at school and don’t want to go after they get home. no one to watch kids… LOL
shut up I am not a recluse… I’m going out tonight… I swear!
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withoutanet said:
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i *know* you don’t want to. and i would,of course, only consider it while the kiddoos are in school. rofl @ recluse. i have had to defend my right to be a recluse, LOL. i dislike unnecessary excursions. it doesnt help that hubby feels the same way, rofl, but hey. its just a part of who we are. you are to busy to be a recluse *chides* rofl. i venture: to grocery store, wal mart 😦 and assorted food serving places from time to time. other than that? imma homebody. lol
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Lady Ozma said:
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That’s me. About the only time I get out other than that is for kid stuff. Though I am a book nut so that led me to jumping into the book group. 🙂 Plus I know what a recluse I am so I make myself do other stuff. I realized what a problem I had when I found myself taking the kids to an activity on Thursdays. It was from 5:30 to 7. I would come home in between. I would get home about 6ish and have to leave by about 6:40. That’s a problem! HAHA But like this week? I almost just sat in my car… I just couldn’t cope with the idea of going into anywhere! Especially because I had a meeting afterwords!! LOL.
But a lot of Saturdays (before recently) I wouldn’t even come out of my bedroom!! How sad is that?
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withoutanet said:
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awww. that is just a teensy sad. sometimes its hard for me to motivate myself. i’ll grudgingly wake up, grudgingly feed us, get him out of bed, do laundry and dishes for the day, but i feel pooped after that. im on the couch or in my comfy chair, reading or on net. and when the doorbell rings? even the cat runs. we stick to ourselves soo much, i’m glad i have a friendly, but busy, neighbor, just to have someone to touch base with. all this time alone has brought he and i very close, but it was hard going at first
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Lady Ozma said:
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OMG… earlier this week it was like 1pm and I was still in my robe(which is so warm and snuggly so it is so hard to get motivated to get out of it and into real clothes… anyway, and my arse was still on the sofa… I see this all too familiar car pull up to my house. Needless to say I was in my bedroom, dressed, and out before these people rang the doorbell! HAHAHA
Now that’s sad.
OK… now that we have had who is a worse reclue war… I think we both need to farking get a life! ROFL. Get out! 🙂
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withoutanet said:
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i knowwww. i try. sometimes. the library. out for a walk, these i can do. i feel like taking care of him and us takes up all of my time, once i’m ready to stop cleaning (HEH). reading is my main hobby and sometimes i loathe its sedentary lifestyle. (my excuse is that my bike tires are flat, and i’m too lazy to fix them
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Lady Ozma said:
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My excuse is it is too farking cold here all the time to do anything. ROFL And when it isn’t cold? It is raining. *SIGH*
but I’m about to get more active. When we move my mother will drag me to her 5000 civic blah de blahs. ROFL.
But it is warmer there so maybe I can get on MY bike. (Which we didn’t own until like last year… hehe My previous bike got thrashed in Arizona…)
But it is seriously all I can do to get out to the market. I put it off and put it off. I just can’t get the motivation to leave my house!
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withoutanet said:
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okay, just for that i made up my bed (yick cat sick on it this morning, meaning, everything had to be washed, down to the zippered, low heat dry only mattress pad, grrrr. poor lil booger has *no* idea why i was peeved), and i’m about to change out the last lil bit of laundry, whoo hooo. one more tiny chore after that and i’m through. thank goodness i cleaned up right after dinner, rofllllllll
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withoutanet said:
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i am in such agreement here, i guarantee to be of no help, rofl. here, if its not raining, its too hot, and ijust dont like dealing with random strangers, which i equate with bad service, yicky food, just ick. and the home is sooo pleasant. there is a reason we have candles, cuddly blankets, and make it such a warm, comfortable place to be. dang it, i want my groceries delivered. rofl
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withoutanet said:
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ewwww, civic things are no fun. rofl, i’m jk. they could *possibly* be fun
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Lady Ozma said:
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Yipes! But poor kitty… hope kitty is much much better…
Crap I need to do another load of laundry… thanks for reminding me.. LOL 🙂
But other than some laundry I think I’m good on house chores. Pays to have nothing in the house 😉
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Lady Ozma said:
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ugh… bad service… you must live in ohio… wait you said it is too hot… can’t be here! ROFL
I want my groceries delivered too! Would have been much easier shopping online… ROFL I love shopping online! 🙂 I generally do my shopping on Thursday while the kids are at their activity I mentioned. I figure I have to be out and it is seriously not worth it to come home. Only reason I didn’t go to the market yesterday was because I had a freezer full of stuff to get us by. If I ran out of milk I could have gotten some at the gas station if need be. HAHA. But I’m sure you read about my freezer already…
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Lady Ozma said:
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LOL We’ll see what my mom does. But moving back “home” means I’ll be expected to you know… do useful stuff other than PTO which I’ve gotten away with doing. I do my church ladies night and PTO and MOPS and book group. Well MOPS is no more after this spring as I have two school kids. And so anyway… with having two kids in school full time I’ll expected to do at least one daytime thing (which PTO, Church women’s, and book club are not)… pain of being “important” or “old family name” or a bajillion other things. Oh well.. tis good to serve, right? HEHE
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withoutanet said:
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it definitely is good to serve. plus you can often experience unexpected results by placing yourself in different places, occasions. well, that will be interesting to hear how that goes anyway.
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withoutanet said:
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oh, i know, what a fiasco, poor honey. you and him both. i try to schedule *all* of my errands around two different biggies. wal mart, and the grocery store. i do everything all at once, on one of those two different occasions.
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withoutanet said:
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well, i need to feed our sir this salmon flavored vaseline and he will be okay. it’s just a pain to remember to do it regularly. (and i htought my hair made it all over the place)
having an empty house sounds awesome. talk about decluttered, rofl
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Lady Ozma said:
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Well at least my life won’t be boring! 🙂 HEHE You can live vicariously through me. See, the internet IS good! 🙂 ROFL…
my mom is in a quilting group and a doll group which I’ll probably try to get out of. They are in the evenings and we aren’t going to be living in the same town and I won’t want to battle the traffic down there. But the Kenmore group (Kenmore is the home of George Washington’s sister… and her husband was our like cousin or some jazz.) is a daytime thing and I’ll probably drive in for that. I’m not sure what else she does… HEHE
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Lady Ozma said:
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Poor kid… he really didn’t mean it. So I let him peak in at the newly stocked freezer. 🙂 Oh well, there was a lot of junk in there I needed to get rid of. HEHE Now it is just stuff that we will eat… haha I mean I had a steak in there… well since I am seriously grill impaired… and I dn’t really like cow meat… I probably wasn’t going to eat it. Oh well. LOL
People are like ‘what do you mean you don’t go out during the day” Well what do I need to go out for. But I also just replaced my winter boots I bought in high school a couple weeks ago. yes high school. Yes I had my 10th reunion last year.. haha
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Lady Ozma said:
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salmon falvoured vaseline???? Ew!!
Yeah it is nice to be decluttered but it is kind of lonely. Nothing on the walls… nothing to do… LOL
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withoutanet said:
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right. so stripped down…
it’s more like petroleum jelly, but i figure thats the same difference, rofl
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Lady Ozma said:
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Still… ew… Icky!
Hey I do have to admit.. the benefit is that I can have drop ins anytime! 🙂 Flylady would be so proud!
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withoutanet said:
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i knoww it sounds mega gross. i was afraid i was gonna have to shove it down his throat. alas, i’m saved, they make it tasty for da kitties.
my sis was amazed at how nice my house looked. she’s always complimentary, or helpful,lol, but she really noticed. she went home and scrubbed her sink. also got her some vinegar. i’m such a fan of this wonder fluid, now. rofl
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withoutanet said:
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ROFL. funny: i’ll tell my neighbor we got up out of bed early (its a lengthy process and means 12:30 pm for us) and she will want to take the kiddo for walk to my house, calling me at 10 am to see if its a good time. rofl. 😦 we are better than halfway done at that point, but by no means finished. lol
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withoutanet said:
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oh boy *said quantum leap style* i could dig a quilting group, that sort of thing runs in my family, though i don’t know how, i would enjoy learning, and keeping my hands busy
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Lady Ozma said:
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I guess kitties have different tastes! Glad he eats it peacefully. I was picturing you with cat nip trying to bribe him!!
You clean with vinegar? Did I understand that right?
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Lady Ozma said:
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ROFL… for me early is about 10:30. LOL Decent is noonish. Best is like 2. *GRINS*
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Lady Ozma said:
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OMG I watched a whole bunch of QL today. And in all five episodes, Sam did not say “oh boy” They were from the beginning of season 2. I guess he didn’t start that till later! i was like “Where’s the OH BOY”
I enjoy quilting too. But I don’t want to drive all the way down to her town for that. We’ll probably be living like 20 to 30 minutes at least in fair traffic… and evening traffic sure ain’t fair. ROFL.
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withoutanet said:
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clean, and other stuff. like, i drink a tablespoon of vinegar and atablespoon of honey in a cup of warm water, for assorted reasons. check out the vinegar page. i put uses for vinegar in the search bar, and i know its at frugal living.com. http://frugalliving.about.com/cs/tips/a/vinegar.htmhere it is, check out the different sections. medicinal, etc. i’m all hyped up about it, lol
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Lady Ozma said:
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Wow.. interesting… I have never used vinegar for anything!
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withoutanet said:
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exactly right. roflllll.. yay for good days, which we are having today. everything finished early, whoo hooo. i dug my foot soaking tub out of the shop (storage, workshop, etc) and a few other items i have been putting off retrieving, so now i have plenty of time to chill. *celebrates*
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withoutanet said:
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LOL- i remember quantum leap back in the day, and we still will SO watch it. and star trek? don’t get me started… !! rofl @ fair traffic. traffic is the only reason i like driving at night, lol
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Lady Ozma said:
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Ahh but I’ll be in the dc area… traffic starts about 2 and does not let up till 10!
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withoutanet said:
vinegar is so wonderful
rofl. like, for irritable bowl syndrome, and stuff like that, intestinally, etc, it soothes you/fixes you, and whatnot. there seem to be so many different ways to use it, and it’s not a toxic chemical.
from that page, there is also a baking soda link.
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Lady Ozma said:
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Wow neat! I had no idea. My husband turns his nose up at it so I just never buy it… LOL i didn’t know how to cook when we got married so everything I’ve learned has been with him… therefore I don’t know how to cook hardly anything!
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withoutanet said:
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fer real, i called my mom up, and said, “how come you never told me about vinegar?” lol. now, she is using it at my suggestion. she had no idea how widely useful vinegar is. too bad she isn’t connected to the net, it would be easier to share it with her.
i’ve got my eye out for a new spray bottle, so i can keep vinegar, water and a lil dish soap in it.
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withoutanet said:
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whew, entirely to metro for me, but one would imagine that. houston? so not my scene. i grew up in smaller towns and love them. (not that i didn’t learn to appreciate the amenities of the city, lol)
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Lady Ozma said:
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wow… i’m still like “WOW How did I not know this???” ROFL… Thank you like a bajillion!!
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Lady Ozma said:
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ROFL.. my hubby is a country boy being wooed by the city life. 🙂 I’m a city girl thru and thru!
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withoutanet said:
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i need to do a search on ‘everyday uses for household items’ lol. i bought some ammonia!! i can’t wait to clean my floors the vinegar, ammonia, and alcohol way. well, i mean, i can wait, rofl. and i will. lol. but i’m excited
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withoutanet said:
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i love so much about country life, the peace, nature, deer, etc. but the small-mindedness? the majority of the children dropping out of school because they’re pregnant, need jobs, etc? that all stinks.
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Lady Ozma said:
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Ugh.. I hate that stuff too… I just don’t get it. My SIL married a guy who said the biggest shock of his life was the day he got his high school diploma. I thought EVERYONE got a high school diploma these days! My SIL didn’t even bother applying to college. *SIGH* And here I’m wanting to go back and finish up and just can’t find the money.
Oh well…
I like the city. You can drive to the country… hehe
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withoutanet said:
school
there is such a huge cultural difference between country and city folk, sometimes, that makes me glad i’ve lived both. i was the first in my family to graduate, but i really saw no other choice, and my friends felt the same way. i feel like i did the usual by dropping out of college. but oh, what i’ve learned! lol. i was attending acu (abilene christian-primarily church of christ) majoring in social work. when i was recruited, they said they could pay. and they did, a lot, but after i started taking out loans, i realized i couldn’t take years and years of borrowing this much money. the private school life didn’t really jive with my lifestyle at the time, i was partyin’ hard. also, now that i think back, i had severe sleep issues. (rofl–even when i wasn’t partying) i really could not (at all) wake up before eleven am. talk about the morning classes falling by the wayside first, rofl. i may still go back someday, but i’m gonna take care of my man while he’s here, and enjoy whatever time we have. *ooo, i’m rambly again!!* rofl
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Lady Ozma said:
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ammonia??? That stuff reeks! HAHA
Now I am wondering what vinegar might do around here… I should try that out!!! 🙂
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withoutanet said:
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when i read someone said they used it to boil their grease vats in, i knew this was the thing for me. *has a greasy face* rofl. and lots of other greasy stuff. and vinegar only smells sorta sweet, lol. it has the power to sting!
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Lady Ozma said:
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Ain’t that the truth. City girl with country inlaws. We are so vastly different we may as well be from opposite ends of the solar system. Sheesh.
I want to go back to school. But I don’t know that I’ll ever find the cash. *SIGH* I mean it is costly and just going up. And we have two boys who will need education too. *SIGH* I kind of hate the cost.. I mean they really make it hard to attain!!
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withoutanet said:
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the cost is extreme. i got lucky, fresh out of high school with grants and stuff, but there were so many opportunities that i could have taken advantage of, had i known i couldn’t afford a private school (on my own). touche. computer stuff is what you would choose to pursue or?
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Lady Ozma said:
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Hmmm I don’t really have a lot of greasy stuff. I get stomache aches from grease so I don’t do the grease thing a whole lot…
I’m gonna try out some vinegar.. if i can remember to buy some!
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Lady Ozma said:
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journalism. Debating flipping that to my minor and doing computery stuff now. But still.. no $$
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withoutanet said:
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that’s cool. i also held an interest for accounting. and not the creative kind, rofl. it appealed to the virgo in me, i guess
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withoutanet said:
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well, i mean the walls, doorknobs, etc, stove, vent hood. we were both raised on fried food, talk about learning bad habits. lol my email is simmergently@hotmail. i like forwarding cute things, but i don’t clutter people too much
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Lady Ozma said:
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i grew up on take out 🙂 I just really don’t like greasy which is a shame since my husband loves it… LOL
well you can email me at ozma511@hotmail.com
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withoutanet said:
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gotcha. we have relearned somedifferent eating habits. but fried chicken or french fries? we fall apart, lol. my family didn’t believe on spending money on luxury food items, so we don’t hold back from treating ourselves, either. we are like a couple of kids, rofl. (hey, at least we like most veggies, lol)
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