I’m making this friends only so that family does not stumble upon it. Only reason
So Sir Megabyte’s sisters are trying to rope us into going to TN for Christmas. Well I told them there was no way I could guarantee due to DH’s job. I specifically told them we would know nothing until much closer to Christmas. But their brother is coming in from Alaska again this year. So they thought it would make a great Christmas gift to MIL to have us show up for the holiday too. Well I’m sorry if DH and I don’t want to drive down there again this year. It is an 8 or 9 hour drive. Plus holiday traffic. Yuck. Well we told them we’d try but we couldn’t promise anything. And we wouldn’t know anything for sure until most likely the week before Christmas. But they were trying to guilt us.
Then I found the final date for the Globetrotters in December. The Sunday after Christmas. Ugh. I really wanted to take the boys because we don’t have a basketball team here and they are interested in basketball and HELLO??? Globetrotters??? Plus the Globetrotters do something special for the scouts (It is a scout thing) and there’s a cool Globetrotter patch. And it is only like 11 or 12 bucks a ticket! Wow! So now I’m thinking “Ergh… don’t know that I want to travel even more now.”
Well we just got off the phone with FIL in NJ. Turns out the sisters called him up and said “Hey all your kids are going to be in TN for Christmas!” WTF??? Erm… no… we said we would let them know. GRRR. So FIL immediately ran out and bought plane tickets for him and his wife. And then called to say “Oh we are so excited that we will see you!” Last time we saw them was the summer of 2000. They came up with excuse after excuse for why they couldn’t come out the last three years. Hello? Caramon had CANCER and they couldn’t come out. Well we couldn’t really travel for what SHOULD be obvious reasons. We were going to try to go this summer but Dh’s work made it impossible. We barely got out for the one thing we did do! Nice to know if it is important enough (erm cancer??) that they will travel though.
So now we are feeling really guilty. But you know what… I really just don’t want to go. Really don’t want to go now. I hate feeling like they are making me feel guilty. *SIGH* So much for my happiness this week. Ugh…
Please excuse me if I’m witchy all month long. I hate being forced into travel.
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velvetcat said:
I don’t blame you
oh boy, nothing like family guilt to put a damper on the time of season.
I Hope it all turns out for you and your family.
*hug*
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reignfall said:
sorry, Oz. Family obligations can really bite sometimes. If you feel strongly about staying home, then stick to your guns. If you end up going when you really don’t want to, it won’t be a good visit for anyone.
I get grumpy about people assuming that I am going to do something when I wasn’t really planning on it, too. But I have also been called a complete scrooge at Christmas time. heh. So you might not want to listen to me. 😉
Hope it all works out for you, hon. *hugs*
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Lady Ozma said:
Re: I don’t blame you
bleh… still frustrated. Watched a good comedy though to lighten my mood. Need more comedies.
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Lady Ozma said:
I don’t wanna go
But I have a feeling we will anyway. Oh well. I’ll take lots of books and be antisocial like I was last time. *SIGH*
I think it is just wrong for people to assume. I at no time said for sure we were coming. I’m really mad now. I don’t know if they did it “cinch the deal” or what. *SIGH*
And I’m feeling really scroogey. And I’m going shopping tomorrow. Buyers beware, I’m ALREADY in a pissy mood! HAHA
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kayeita said:
=(
That sucks big time. Christmas should be a special time, not something you fear approaching!
Just to add more flames to the fire, the way I read that too is you will be a bad guy if you don’t go, and if you DO go, the sisters in TN will be the big heroes for supplying such a wonderful “gift” of the whole family together. Its not fair to put you in that sort of position, not at all.
I can understand why you are so frustrated and angry about the whole thing. We got guilted a bit because we didn’t go to my MIL’s wedding at the end of august. HELLO!! She didn’t come to OUR wedding, it was her 3rd wedding, PLUS i was due with the baby 2 weeks later, with that horrible pregnancy I had!!
I think you need to stand your ground and do what YOU want to do. The holidays are something you are allowed to enjoy as well. No matter if you travel, or if you guys stay at home and do your own thing, make sure you HAVE FUN and get to enjoy the holidays the way they should be enjoyed. =)
DON’T feel guilty because you want to have your own Christmas. Maybe you and your husband want to start your OWN family traditions for the season.
Erm. Well I don’t think this post really helped much but I was actually able to type with 2 hands for a moment since BellaBoo fell asleep on the nursing pillow. hehe. But i can TOTALLY sympathize with the guilt trips.
Hope you feel better about it soon. Watch the Princess Bride (I’m sure you’ve probably seen it before, but its one of those that can be watched forever and ever.)
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capturedheart said:
I’m sorry that you’re being put in this situation. It’s not fair for you or your family that you’re feeling guilty about something that you shouldn’t have to.
*hugs*
Just try and remember that you two have to take care of yourselfs and your boys, and do whatever you really feel is best for you guys. If you don’t think you can/want to/need to go, then don’t and don’t let other people send you packin’ on a guilt trip.
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Lady Ozma said:
Re: =(
I will be the bad guy which I hate. I’ll be the frelling wife who kept all the kids apart so that FIL and MIL could not have their whole family together at one time. And that FIL tried so hard to come see us (yeah right) and we didn’t care. *SIGH* Seriously, the litany of excuses here are a pain in the arse and we are sick of it. That’s a whole OTHER story…
OMG… I had trouble because I was on bed rest and my husband’s step grandfather passed away. It was a 9-10 hour trip to TN and I was having contractions and was 27 weeks pregnant. my husband ended up going after I found a teenager I hardly knew from Church come stay with me to help me out. They haven’t had difficult pregnancies and so they don’t understand. GRRRR I have found this the case a LOT. So if it helps, I understand what you went through there too. And next time (if there is one) I’ll vouch for you. HEHEHE
BTW I can picture you typing one handed… I remember those days *SIGH* They grow up too fast.
Oooh love the PB idea… what a way to cheer up! AS YOU WIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIISH! HEHE
*SIGH* I don’t know what we are doing. We are both kind of cheesed off though. I swear this was intentional. GRRR. I don’t know how to get my inlaws to understand my husband’s job. He’s a Project Manager. Means he gets paid a lot to work 90 million hours a week and terrorize techs. HAHA But it also means it is VERY difficult to plan anything more than a week or two in advance.
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Lady Ozma said:
I’ll try
I’m just so frustrated and you can tell. I’m getting grouchier and grouchier as the days go by. 😦 *SIGH*
Inlaws.
GRRR.
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capturedheart said:
Re: I’ll try
GRRR is right!
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velvetcat said:
laughter helps
I love a good comedy.
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Lady Ozma said:
Re: laughter helps
laughter can cure just about everything!
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velvetcat said:
Re: laughter helps
I heard that laughing is also like a good workout in its benefits!
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Lady Ozma said:
Re: laughter helps
OMG… I have something FOR you!
I went to this comic con… and there was a fanzine for Ron there. They said they were thinking about doing a Hermoine one AND a SNAPE one!! I’ll dig out their website for you and post it.
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