I was cleaning more last night. What’s the point though? No one cares. People just come in and throw stuff everywhere and no one really notices what I do. So the last thing I did was sort dirty clothes to launder and threw a batch in the wash. Well apparently I scooped up Sir Megabyte’s coat by accident and washed it. It is fine, it is washable but since then I went to bed the stuff didnt’ make it into the dryer so the coat is in the washer still. I totally didn’t mean to. It was a major accident. I’m so stupid. On the bright note it is all clean for the new winter. But Sir Megabyte woke me up and wanted to know where his coat was. I had no idea. I didn’t even see it on the floor where I was doing laundry. I’m blind. So I offered him his really warm and comfy trench coat he had in the military but he did not want it. I feel bad. I think he went out in 26 degree weather with no coat. How could I be such a flake and so stupid? I went back to bed and just lay there thinking about what I dope I was. And how I can’t do anything right. What does it matter trying to make this place look good. All I do is screw things up. I hope he is OK. I’m really sorry but he didn’t seem to care. I really didn’t mean to grab it. It was an accident.
I’m so dumb
19 Friday Dec 2003
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dani_ellie said:
Hon, if he went out into the cold without a coat when there was a perfectly good one that was dry? Not your fault. It was an accident, plain and simple. Don’t beat yourself up over it. 🙂
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kayeita said:
Don’t beat yourself up over this. We all make mistakes like this. To top it off you guys had that spat earlier that you talked about in an earlier journal entry. Plus the stress of the season, and everything, some toes are bound to get stepped on.
But as the previous comment said, you offered him a coat that was fine to use, and he refused it. You can’t help his stubbornness on this. Sometimes men just stink.
*hug*
Hope you feel better.
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Lady Ozma said:
Thanks
I just can’t believe that I did that and that he was so upset. *SIGH* I really didn’t mean to make his life hard or anything. It wasn’t done on purpose.
At least he’ll have a clean coat.
*SIGH*
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Lady Ozma said:
Why are men so hard to please?
I mean all that work I did on his junk in the closet and he didn’t care. Then he griped at me over scouts. Then over his coat which was a PURE accident.
I just hope he’s warm enough.
I should probably tell him “Tough, you shoulda hung it up” but I’m just not brave enough. I should have paid more attention when I was getting the laundry sorted and taking it to the washer.
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kayeita said:
Re: Why are men so hard to please?
I know, I hate it when I put forth a bunch of effort into something (which isn’t something I’ve been able to do much of lately with the baby anyway) and then the efforts go unnoticed. My hubby usually gets his man-pms when I make a snarky comment about something. My mouth is always what gets me into trouble.
But there you go, beating yourself up over it again. It is not your fault he did not hang up his coat and you washed it by accident. I know there’s nothing I can do to make you feel any better, just try to stop thinking about it or it will ruin your whole day.
I wish i had more time in the day. I am really enjoying being a stay at home mom right now, I wish it could continue, but I have to go back to work in August. But just because I am home all day long does not mean I can get all that much done in a day! As cute and cuddly as babies are, Annabella is a lot more time consuming than I thought, she is very clingy, and I can’t handle listening to her cry, so if she is crying I do whatever it takes to make it stop. When the house is messy (which is all the time now) and hubby comes home, sometimes he’s got an attitude, and will bang around the kitchen filling up the dishwasher, in a bad mood because it is messy. But then on weekends and such he sees how much time it takes to deal with the baby, especially when sometimes I leave the house by myself and leave her with him! I came home once, after being gone for an hour and he was laying on the floor with her, playing with her, when I knew he wanted to be on his computer. I kind of laughed when he said she would not be quiet unless he was playing with her. My thoughts… GOOD! Haha sit there and play with her, she’s your daughter too, you need to help out!
Erm. Didn’t mean to ramble there hahaha. But you know what I mean i’m sure. =)
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Lady Ozma said:
Re: Why are men so hard to please?
Yeah, he’s all like “Um, why don’t you do anything?” A few days ago I had been doing all this work lately… and he came home and he’s all like “Why dont’ you clean out the fridge?”
Apparently he had put the big butter tub and the big whipped cream tub in front of the container holding the ham from Thanksgiving.
He then said “Well you put the stuff there, and you are supposed to look behind things.” Well in the last three weeks since Thanksgiving when I have I used the butter tub or the whipped cream tub? Um… OK, I can’t remember the last time I used either of these at all. But when I clean the fridge, if there is only the tub butter and the tub whipped cream (We usually only have the butter) on that shelf, then instead of sliding it all the way back I keep it towards the front. 99% of the time that is the only thing on that shelf. And I put the ham on the top shelf, and somehow it got moved to the second shelf. I was gone that weekend so I really didn’t even know if the family ate the leftovers or if it got moved. Excuse me??? I just assumed it had gotten eaten since it wasn’t on the top shelf any more. I was gone at lunch for three days in a row, easily could have been done. Apparently though my anti-leftover husband just hid the dumb thing.
Excuse me? All the other work I have done and you griping over ham in the fridge YOU hid??? you hid the dumb thing. You are the one who insists on a mountain of butter on everything. You knew it was there. Go away.
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kayeita said:
Re: Why are men so hard to please?
Just makes you want to stick your tongue out at him and go “Thhhhhhhpppbbttt!” right in the face, when they get that way. Big babies men can be.
I’m not sexist or anything but I joke around about “Pink Jobs” and “Blue Jobs”. Taking out the garbage is a “blue job”. I mean heck we’re both so lazy that barely anything gets done anyway, but still. One of the only things I really ask for help with is i want him to take the garbage out. Thursdays is garbage day. Wednesday night I always remind him, “Please take the garbage out tomorrow morning”. Well sure enough yesterday morning I wake up and the stinky garbage is still inside argh. I was able to have a calm moment from baby and be able to run the garbage down to the street curb. I did get a nice laugh at him when he came home at lunch and i got to make a comment regarding “when I took the garbage out this morning”. I didn’t bitch at him or anything, just was able to fit it into our convo somehow, and when i did, he just got this sheepish look on his face, and apologized hehehe.
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Lady Ozma said:
Re: Why are men so hard to please?
I think garbage is a blue job but husband gripes. “I always take it out?” i’m staring at him like “I can’t remember the last time you took out the garbage.”
And let me tell you, like this morning? He actually remembered to put the can at the end of the drive. Well we get trash ONCE a week. And if we miss it we are screwed. They only take garbage in the big trash bin. If we put a bag next to the trash bin they gave us, they don’t take it. Only the bin. It is fully automated. I have been taking stuff to my friend because her trash people take anything.
But our neighbourhood will gripe if we put it out early. So I was like “You HAVE to remember to take it out.” With the holiday next week our garbage is moving from Friday to Monday
1. We are going out of town 2. I’ve been cleanign so the bin is full 3. Christmas trash will fill the bin alone! So get this, he has to walk by our kitchen trash which was 99% full and needed taking out to get to the bin to put at the end of the drive. Did he grab the trash? No. But he did put the bin out.
And if he remembers to take the bin out, the trash doesn’t come till 1pm. If he forgets, it comes at 7 AM. No kidding… this happens without fail. Why we don’t have a standard time is beyond me. But you don’t know how many times the kids come running into my room right after my husband leaves for work and wake me up and say “Daddy just left, the garbage men are on the street and the bin isn’t out!” I’ve many many many a trash day been in my housecoat, barefoot hauling the bin to the street corner as the trashmen drive up laughing and pointing at me.
Of course, one day our neighbour across the street forgot his bin because our trash is confusing. (If there is a holiday your trash day moves to the next day so we are all always forgetting what day trash day is. especially like now. Our trash day was Thursday at Thanksgiving. Now it is Friday. Next week it changes to Monday, then the following week it will be Tuesday. Then after MLK Jr day in mid January our trash day will move to Wed!!) So he actually noticed our bin had not been taken yet so he raced his bin over to our house. I happend to walk out at the same time he was doing this and I was like “What are you doing?” He gets all sheepish and says “You don’t mind?” I said “As long as they take both, I don’t care. Do it anytime! Just don’t be surprised if my bin is over at your house one day!” HEHE (They also alternate what side of the street they do first.)
OK, now that i had a garbage rant.. haha OK, somehow the garbage rant has actually amused me and made me feel a little better. How sick and wrong is that? Me and the bins… we have those large square ones on wheels. Really nice because you don’t have a thousand cans… but whew!
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jeckasue said:
Re: Why are men so hard to please?
I think it must be Man-PMS day today. I had a huge fight with hugh on the way home from work. He got uber-ticked because I sat at the door of the mall with my co-worker waiting on her mom to pick her up. She called to find out where Mom was when we got to the mall door, and she was on the road where the mall is. Half an hour later, her mom shows up. Hugh and Andrew were in the car in the parking lot, and the IDIOT had the car off so they were freezing. He said something about not knowing if he had enough gas to run it to sit there. Hmmm we managed to get all the way to freakin Shepherdsville without getting gas (I live half an hour from the mall).
Whole point of it was, he was ticked because he was put out a little. Yeah. Like I’ve NEVER had to wait on him. He didn’t get that though. So now I feel like crap from having this big fight with him. We’d been doing so good too. Yesterday was our 5 year anniversary. I was thinking things would turn around. Now I’m back to … will we make it to 6? ::sigh::
Oh, we have the garbage thing too. It must be a man thing.
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withoutanet said:
the cleaning venture
it seems to me that cleaning is something that you have to do for you, because everyone else is against you, i wanted to jump in and hug you and friend here, cause i am soooo not a cleaning person. im lazy, and accumulate junk faster than i can dispose of it, of course, it would help if i deigned to throw something away (nope, i cant do it) WOMAN:::: i am hard core admiring you for the work you have done lately!!!! that basement was big work!!! pat yourself on the back, please… both of you!!! i have no children, so im lucky, in that, as far as cleaning goes, but it is still incredibly hard to motivate myself to dust something that looks filthy even when im through… i want everything to look brand-new, please… and even then, i would let it get trashed, so… no win… im so defeatest, rofllllllll. anyhoo, ty for lettin me rant wiff ya. and nuffin but support for the two of you!!! *hugs*
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withoutanet said:
hiiii
i wanted you to find my comment to ozma, cause it was directed at you too
rofl @ me
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Lady Ozma said:
Re: Why are men so hard to please?
Man PMS day is right. Though DH has been much better tonight. Whew.
So um, why did he just sit there? Why did he not come in? I mean, hello… I’ve seen the mall. And frankly, hello mall. Park where? You are supposed to randomly walk the parking lot? What a dork. Men make no sense. I’d go into the mall… Silly.
Ugh, we had hell fight on our 9th anniversary. Really bad. Bleh.
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Lady Ozma said:
Re: the cleaning venture
HEHE.. well I definately like my house clean. And I do think the world is working against me. I’m the only one who does anything around here. Everyone else throws their crap everywhere and then complains when I ask them to do something with the crap. GRRR.
I need to post pictures of the basement. Do me a favour, harass me. 🙂 They are on my site, but i should journal it. HEHE.
Here’s the hint… do it while on the phone. Get a cleaning buddy. I have a cleaning buddy who lived in North Dakota. (She recently moved and not sure what state she is in… can’t remember.) Then I met and we work well together because we crack each other up and have a lot of fun. And let me tell you housework is more fun like that. So I highly recommend a buddy.
If all else fails, IM works for me. 🙂 and I would (and also that ND friend) have fun having contests to see who would finish a room first or goading the other into working!! I’ll buddy with you on IM or something if you need it!! HEHE
((HUGS)) You are cool… besides I’ll just come visit and freak out and get manic and end up like alphabetizing something. HEHEHE
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kayeita said:
Re: the cleaning venture
i am also soooooooo not a cleaning person. we are both lazy slobs, my hubby and me. My big annoyance is that we have a baby (3 months now) so I WANT everything clean so it is all nice and safe for her, i’m sick of everything being so yucky, or welcoming the feeling when I go to my parents house because it has that nice and clean feel to it that I am lacking at my own house. Its just hard with the baby; but sometimes I can get stuff done on the weekends, because hubby is home too. He held her during her nap yesterday (she naps longer if she’s held, she’s a little suckie baby hehe) and I got a ton of stuff done in my kitchen. We’re leaving town in January so I want my house spotless for my friend who will be house sitting for us, but thankfully my husband has a few days off before we go so we can go crazy together.
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Lady Ozma said:
Re: the cleaning venture
I enjoy keeping my house clean. But I have been getting frustrated because my little family of four has three huge slobs. My kids just throw stuff everywhere and don’t care. My husband throws stuff everyone and does not care. So what do I do? i feel like I clean clean and it does no good. Very frustrating.
Just wait till that cute baby grows up to be a sloppy kid! HEHE
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